Hello guys!!!
Welcome to another exciting weekend, and thank God it's Friday.
I will be discussing about our last discussion, about a lady that invested six years of her life to a relationship, or still investing, and she's very tired and needs an urgent advice, because according to her she is very or feel lost and feel suffocated in the relationship and needed an advice.
I received alot of mails concerning the advice I gave to her and most of the mails were about my quote (a broke guy has no business in being in a relationship).
I received alot of mails concerning this, saying na broke we broke oh, we no kill person,. (A quote from atleast 5 guys π).
Bros, I think we had a miscommunication on this, what I said was that a guy that want to be in a relationship should be able to take care of his own personal needs, before extending his hands on a relationship, you can't be broke with no income and then being in a relationship.
At least if you are going into a relationship, please make sure you can take care of your basic needs.
Dear sis, I can feel your pain through your writing, and it's obvious you love and want the best for him.
So here's what we are doing, you will arrange a meeting between you two, then ask him where your relationship is going
Now here's a trick, when a guy tells you immediately he has money or get a job is marrying you in that his condition, my dear sister, I hope am communicating, start giving other guys chance,
Because men like that are not serious and they will keep wasting your time .
And immediately he got a better job, you are a goner, he will never ever settle down with you, yes you heard me right, because by then you won't be his specks.
Note :- Iam not saying it's not good to suffer with a guy, suffer with a guy that has a potential, someone that's very hard working, and trying all his possible best to be somebody in life, not someone that said he can't settle for a salary of 60k and yet find it so easy to settle with his girlfriend 60k salary, that's a selfish man right there.
And he doesn't want to work, a hard working man, will start a hustling job, just to put food on his own table and not depend on his girl money.
Infact a very hard working man will be so ashamed to collect money from his girl, and the lady will be the one forcing him to take.
And this is for you dear sister, no matter how much you love a man, do not, never offer to carry his responsibility, yes you are his girlfriend, not his parents, and you have your own life to live, do not ever displease yourself, just because you want to please someone, live your own life, they will either meet you half way, or go, their choice to make.
Iam not saying you shouldn't or can't help your boyfriend/girlfriend, but not at the detriment of your own happiness. Love with your eyes and brain open,
If that man married you, believe me you will be shouldering all the house responsibility and by then it will be far worst, because it will be triple, this is just an iceberg, compare to when you are both married.
That's my blunt and honest answer and I do wish you all the best dear sis, please don't forget to let me know the outcome of your meeting. Love you now and always.
I will be dropping my pen here today, thanks so much for always sending in mails and for your advice, thanks so much, these are really appreciated.
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