Being in a domestic relationship

Hello guys,

Welcome to another surprising week, am claiming this with faith oh, don't know about you guys.

Back to the topic at hand, I received alot of mails regarding this issue and they are noted.

So here's my take and advice on this issue 

Firstly never ever allow your boyfriend to take up the responsibility of a husband. 

When you do this you are totally putting the future of your relationship in the guys and family hand, you won't be able to make a decision without them interferring.

The guy has issues his extremely a jealous type, we all have jealousy in us especially when we love someone but if it's can't be controlled then you loose yourself in that process.

Her family are not helping issues as well because of what they re getting from the guy.

Here's my advice a relationship consist of two people only, and once it's start spreading to three or four, the people involved will always  make issues for you  and that's a fact.

Now you need to be sure if the love is still there or  if  it's self  gratitude.

If it's self gratitude then you need to get out of that relationship, because if you don't you won't be respected when you eventually married him.

But before you do that you need to have a heart to heart discussion with your family telling them that you need to manage your relationship by yourself and that you will appreciate if none of your member call your boyfriend for money stating that anyone who does that is on their own.

If the lady in question still loves him, she need to be in control of her relationship, by discussing heart to heart discussion with him stating what makes her unhappy.

Firstly she needs to let him know how much she loves him, and that she's not okay with the way he embarrassed her when she's with friends and that she needs to be free and not conform to a place.

The day she agreed to stop working she has given the guy total authority over her, the guy in question saw her when she was working why would she now stopped she needs to start doing something even if the pay is small.

when a lady works it send a signal to her man that she's independent and not a parasite.

Parasite live on people and people can decide to do whatever they like to them that's what she is.

She needs to let the guy know she want to work and not a parasite

Shes old enough to know what's good for her not her family if she state all these and the guy threatened to cut the relationship please let him.

And if the family start fighting her for these please tell them it's your life and that you are old enough to know what's good for you.

I will have to be blunt here,  the relationship might not see another year if she state all what she want  and he's okay with it; because

He's used to controlling her, without been questioned.

The family are used to free access to him to collect money and since she's cutting them off, it's won't be easy 

This is a warning for her to brace up her heart for anything that might happen.

I hope the  advice work for your friend.

Till we meet again you know I love you right.yes you.....

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