Men are very uncomfortable being on the receiving end of too much especially from a woman they are crazy about.
WAY TO MAKE YOUR MEN HAPPY
Stop putting face on things by thinking everything is well
Stop Trying:- stop asking him to do things for you, learn to be independent men like ladies that behave like boss ladies that can take care of their needs whatever hes doing for you should be a secondary thing and not primary to you.
Let Him Know How You Feel
never pretend all is well when it is not, when he mess up let him know, stop pretending all is well when actually it isnt.
Trust
learn to trust him more if he says this is black said ok it is even when you know it isnt, dont be over sabi personality type, Men dont like been question repeatedly they tend to be pissed off and this usually turn off their interest .
Lastly stop trying to be perfect
be real be your true self, stop making sure things never got messy with you or unplesant
stop saying yes or okay to everything or everytime.
why say you are okay when you are stop forming nobody is perfect let your man see your flaws and all he even fall yakata for you because of that.
thank you and do have a great week love you guys i do hope you enjoy this and if you have problem or advice pls mail me
temmybuhnmy@gmail.com
Monday, 6 November 2017
Friday, 3 November 2017
HOW TO STOP YOUR EX FROM ALWAYS APPEARING AND DISAPPEARING IN YOUR LIFE
mail from
Anonymous:-
Anonymous:-
hello Bunmi you are doing a great job,
thanks i have an ex that keeps coming to beg and once i accept him after a month or 2months
he will disappear again this thing has been going on and off for 2years now.
am fed up and i need an advice
he will disappear again this thing has been going on and off for 2years now.
am fed up and i need an advice
thanks
i receive this mail yesterday and one thing came to my mind immediately, you are at fault or should i say you allow it.
i will be teaching on how to deal with men that subject their girlfriend to a dumping ground, what i mean by dumping ground is he treat you like a dustbin.
HOW TO DEAL WITH HIM
1. Let him know you can't stand his unseriousness anymore, stood your ground and have a discussion and if he try romancing you in order to distract you from the conversation stood your ground and let him know you guys need to talk and iron things out.
2. Stop being the reason for him to come back, you are the cause you keep giving him the gesture to do that youve involve your world around him and made him believe without him you can survive you need to stop doing this. you allowed him to treat you like a trash you need to munch a great courage and stop this, get in action be productive with your life, focus in been a better you.
3. You need to think hard on what you. what do you want? if you still want him, it gonna be a tough thinking, sit down and think it really well, do you want him to keep treating you like a trash, are you comfortable being a trash, are you a dumping ground where he run to whenever he likes, are you that low self esteemed , you need to think all this through and make your decision.
till we meet again i do hope this will help the lady.
thank you for reading and stay bless.
i receive this mail yesterday and one thing came to my mind immediately, you are at fault or should i say you allow it.
i will be teaching on how to deal with men that subject their girlfriend to a dumping ground, what i mean by dumping ground is he treat you like a dustbin.
HOW TO DEAL WITH HIM
1. Let him know you can't stand his unseriousness anymore, stood your ground and have a discussion and if he try romancing you in order to distract you from the conversation stood your ground and let him know you guys need to talk and iron things out.
2. Stop being the reason for him to come back, you are the cause you keep giving him the gesture to do that youve involve your world around him and made him believe without him you can survive you need to stop doing this. you allowed him to treat you like a trash you need to munch a great courage and stop this, get in action be productive with your life, focus in been a better you.
3. You need to think hard on what you. what do you want? if you still want him, it gonna be a tough thinking, sit down and think it really well, do you want him to keep treating you like a trash, are you comfortable being a trash, are you a dumping ground where he run to whenever he likes, are you that low self esteemed , you need to think all this through and make your decision.
till we meet again i do hope this will help the lady.
thank you for reading and stay bless.
Tuesday, 31 October 2017
TRAP
never allow any man to trapped you never.
T=Tension
R=resentment
A= Anger
P=Powerlessness
when all these occur in your relationship then that relationship isn't healthy at all.
trap is a red flag and need to be avoided in your relationship, making the same mistakes every time and apologizing about the same transgression several times, then you need to take a forever walk when this happen.
if all you need is love that makes you take all these in your relationship, then your relationship isn't healthy duo a couple certainly need oven , but more importantly they need a satisfying level of compatibility to stay together.
when a man get you trapped in a relationship then he get to treat you anyhow, and these type of men blackmail emotionally as well
HOW NOT TO BE TRAPPED
Hold him accountable for his behavior don't let it slip if he made mistakes, in fact discuss it and if you notice he want to start getting offended in order to avoid the discussion stood your ground and made sure you aren't bought with that express yourself and iron it out maturely.
Listen with a third ear when he tried explaining why he did what he did, never be influence by his sweet story focus on the main issue at hand.
let him know he is not fooling you with his jumbled takes on rationalization.
if he keep making mistakes over and over again you need to drop his ass/her ass and move on
never be manipulated by his/her cry make sure you stood your ground
in all in all we all deserve a second chance so if he/she really shoe sign of repentance then you need to give them but if they didnt my dear you just dodge a bullet you dont need a negative vibe in your life take them out.
T=Tension
R=resentment
A= Anger
P=Powerlessness
when all these occur in your relationship then that relationship isn't healthy at all.
trap is a red flag and need to be avoided in your relationship, making the same mistakes every time and apologizing about the same transgression several times, then you need to take a forever walk when this happen.
if all you need is love that makes you take all these in your relationship, then your relationship isn't healthy duo a couple certainly need oven , but more importantly they need a satisfying level of compatibility to stay together.
when a man get you trapped in a relationship then he get to treat you anyhow, and these type of men blackmail emotionally as well
HOW NOT TO BE TRAPPED
Hold him accountable for his behavior don't let it slip if he made mistakes, in fact discuss it and if you notice he want to start getting offended in order to avoid the discussion stood your ground and made sure you aren't bought with that express yourself and iron it out maturely.
Listen with a third ear when he tried explaining why he did what he did, never be influence by his sweet story focus on the main issue at hand.
let him know he is not fooling you with his jumbled takes on rationalization.
if he keep making mistakes over and over again you need to drop his ass/her ass and move on
never be manipulated by his/her cry make sure you stood your ground
in all in all we all deserve a second chance so if he/she really shoe sign of repentance then you need to give them but if they didnt my dear you just dodge a bullet you dont need a negative vibe in your life take them out.
Thursday, 19 October 2017
Walking Away When He’s Not Interested
when a guy tell you hey babe am not interested, lets break up, the first thing that come to mine is Are you allright, hope you aren't sick or something, then when reality set in we start cussing and throwing it at him hey right we all do that, lol
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we’re going to break this down. You might not like what I have to say, but that’s why we have a love/hate relationship. You hate what I say, but you love me ‘cus you know it’s true and I’m trying to save you from pain and misery, which balances out the hatred. Amiright?
walking way from someone that doesnt want you is the hardest thing to do, infact it that bad, you start thing like what happen am smart , am good, am this and that so we are going to be looking how to move on from it all, it not going to be easy but it will be worthy it at the end of the day.
Never Hope:- never hope for his come back, in fact if you go back to beg and sex happen he will still dump you, when a guy said is over it means it over, and that's the truth. never hope he might change and come back in the future, but if he come back great by then you would have meet a great guy, and if you did not and feel to work it out great. but never waste your life waiting that he's going to come back he might not.
Put Yourself in His Position :- most times when guys ask us out we reject them because we don't have feelings for them, now lets think that way, he probably didn't want to waste your time and his too, except if he left for a new girl, but if he just told you he doesn't feel the spark again and doesn't want to waste your time and His, then hes a great guy and that is the truth hate me for it but it the truth
Never Try To Convince Him or Push Your Way Back :- never do this, no matter how broken you are just let it rest don't try to set up meeting or try having coffee to beg or convince him that you will do whatever he want, when you do this you start losing your self esteem worth and he won't respect you again, just move on to great thing achieve great things and make great things happen.
i hope you enjoy reading this, feel free to drop comment thanks and love you guys...
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we’re going to break this down. You might not like what I have to say, but that’s why we have a love/hate relationship. You hate what I say, but you love me ‘cus you know it’s true and I’m trying to save you from pain and misery, which balances out the hatred. Amiright?
walking way from someone that doesnt want you is the hardest thing to do, infact it that bad, you start thing like what happen am smart , am good, am this and that so we are going to be looking how to move on from it all, it not going to be easy but it will be worthy it at the end of the day.
Never Hope:- never hope for his come back, in fact if you go back to beg and sex happen he will still dump you, when a guy said is over it means it over, and that's the truth. never hope he might change and come back in the future, but if he come back great by then you would have meet a great guy, and if you did not and feel to work it out great. but never waste your life waiting that he's going to come back he might not.
Put Yourself in His Position :- most times when guys ask us out we reject them because we don't have feelings for them, now lets think that way, he probably didn't want to waste your time and his too, except if he left for a new girl, but if he just told you he doesn't feel the spark again and doesn't want to waste your time and His, then hes a great guy and that is the truth hate me for it but it the truth
Never Try To Convince Him or Push Your Way Back :- never do this, no matter how broken you are just let it rest don't try to set up meeting or try having coffee to beg or convince him that you will do whatever he want, when you do this you start losing your self esteem worth and he won't respect you again, just move on to great thing achieve great things and make great things happen.
i hope you enjoy reading this, feel free to drop comment thanks and love you guys...
Friday, 13 October 2017
HOW TO MANAGE CONFLICT IN RELATIONSHIP
Rule #1 :- Never expect your partner to fill up the hole in your heart only God can do that :- sometimes we fall into the category of always expecting our partner to fill up some certain position in our life which are impossible, we expect so much from them and when they fail to do this we start acting up and fighting them, instead of expecting much from them, pray and commit your life and expectation in Gods hand and He will never disappoint you.
Rule #2 :- Never Yell no matter how angry you are never shout or yell, be calm and never react negatively if you cant stand your partner at that time stroll out to a place to cool your temper.
Rule #3 :- Don't Cuss :- once you do this even if you are right you become wrong, don't cuss if there's a conflict once you do this your partner will lost interest in what ever you are trying to say.
Rule #4:- Always worked yourself to apologies first :- apologizing first never mean you are a fool or stupid, it simply means you are a bigger person that want the relationship to work out.
Rule #5 :- Have Patience :- never make discussion in the heat of an argument, be patience and allow the matter to die down or low before doing that.
Rule #2 :- Never Yell no matter how angry you are never shout or yell, be calm and never react negatively if you cant stand your partner at that time stroll out to a place to cool your temper.
Rule #3 :- Don't Cuss :- once you do this even if you are right you become wrong, don't cuss if there's a conflict once you do this your partner will lost interest in what ever you are trying to say.
Rule #4:- Always worked yourself to apologies first :- apologizing first never mean you are a fool or stupid, it simply means you are a bigger person that want the relationship to work out.
Rule #5 :- Have Patience :- never make discussion in the heat of an argument, be patience and allow the matter to die down or low before doing that.
Rule #6 :- Be Authentic :- if you don't understand what your partners said ask and ask until you get it, dont act like you do while you don't, ask question if the questions you ask turn into conflict it better to fight and iron issues out than to pretend you understand and then store it in your heart. learn to know yourself.
successful couples have the ability to solve problems and let it go, they fight and make up and made amend, and forget and let go, they don't keep grudges against each other, they accepted each other flaws
Tuesday, 10 October 2017
Ways to Keep Your Relationship Happy And Healthy
Relationship can come with it ups and down, and it never easy to manage as well,but couples that want the same goals can turn it to a healthy relationship and also weather the storm together.
will be listing how to be happy in a relationship
1. COMMUNICATION :-This is very important and vital, make sure you communicate openly with each other, infarct communication is more important than commitment, never avoid conflict it better to say what you have in mind and get your partner angry and trash the issue out than to store it in your heart which isn't healthy for a relationship because by the time it has accumulated it becomes heavy for the heart and resentment start coming in.
2. NEVER FORGET LITTLE THINGS:- thank you, please, make polite conversation this go along way never take him/her for granted.
3. EXERCISE TOGETHER:- couples who work together stay together, and are happy with their relationship.
4 GO ON VACATION:- travel alone, meeting new friends, can energies the brain and new ideals can come in which will make you happy with yourself when you are happy your relationship will also experience happiness.
5:- HAVE SEX REGULARLY:- yes have sex everyday different style should be tried this makes one another to look forward to the surprise doing this makes your relationship to be lively.
will be listing how to be happy in a relationship
1. COMMUNICATION :-This is very important and vital, make sure you communicate openly with each other, infarct communication is more important than commitment, never avoid conflict it better to say what you have in mind and get your partner angry and trash the issue out than to store it in your heart which isn't healthy for a relationship because by the time it has accumulated it becomes heavy for the heart and resentment start coming in.
2. NEVER FORGET LITTLE THINGS:- thank you, please, make polite conversation this go along way never take him/her for granted.
3. EXERCISE TOGETHER:- couples who work together stay together, and are happy with their relationship.
4 GO ON VACATION:- travel alone, meeting new friends, can energies the brain and new ideals can come in which will make you happy with yourself when you are happy your relationship will also experience happiness.
5:- HAVE SEX REGULARLY:- yes have sex everyday different style should be tried this makes one another to look forward to the surprise doing this makes your relationship to be lively.
Thursday, 5 October 2017
WHAT TO DO WHEN HIS/HER TAKING YOU FOR GRANTED
there's a sentence i do hear from my dad then that says when a guy is into you there is absolute nothing he wont do to get you. and yes that's how love is that L.O.V.E called Love
now lets look when you start taking for a granted
Doesn’t take you out on dates. a relationship without have date is not a perfect relationship it doesn't necessarily taking you out to watch movies, or spoiling you expensively, you guys can stroll round the neighborhood and get to know each other and search ideals as well.
No longer texts you just because he doesn't see you for two to three days and he never bothered to call or text it time to start diverting your heart from it.
Forgets to respond when you text ;- when you call he doesn't response to it then there's a problem.
there's a sentence i do hear from my dad then that says when a guy is into you there is absolute nothing he wont do to get you. and yes that's how love is that L.O.V.E called Love
now lets look when you start taking for a granted
Doesn’t take you out on dates. a relationship without have date is not a perfect relationship it doesn't necessarily taking you out to watch movies, or spoiling you expensively, you guys can stroll round the neighborhood and get to know each other and search ideals as well.
No longer texts you just because he doesn't see you for two to three days and he never bothered to call or text it time to start diverting your heart from it.
Forgets to respond when you text ;- when you call he doesn't response to it then there's a problem.
Won’t listen when you want to tell him something.:- when you try getting his attention by starting a conversation and he start checking his phone frequently or he just ignore you then there is problem
when you see all he want from you is sex :- this aren't cool or normal at all
WHY DO MEN TAKES LADIES FOR GRANTED
Because they’re driven to hunt.they cant believe how hot you are or something and they will want to try all to get you by been submissive and nice .
If a guy starts taking you for granted, theres are two ways it either mean he has another or hes gotten too comfortable with you, To get his attention back, you have to make him uncomfortable by being out of reach. the best way to do this is not by nagging, or fighting , or all thats childish men hate it when they are been ignore it kill there ego these are what to do to get him on the spot back
– Not reaching out to him.
– Doing your own thing with your girlfriends.
– Not sleeping with him.
Pulling back should bring back his attention. If it doesn’t, whatevs — you don’t need that sorry mess!
Wednesday, 4 October 2017
hello everyone and happy new month
i receive this mail and the person want an urgent answer, so i will be discussing about it
MY NEW BOYFRIEND ALWAYS WANT ME TO CALL HIM FIRST IS IT NORMAL PLS HELP
there are different types of guys , some are extra-ordinary shy and some are quite type and some really weird guy that just do things without knowing if you are hurt or not, now the point is how does he feel when you call him first those he apologies sincerely and try to explain why he didnt call you since if he does that he likes you alot and felt guilty and was trying so hard to not make you feel bad.
now what to do if this happens frequently go on a date and table how you feel about this, now when you are explaining your plight to him dont show anger, annoyance just allow the flows then say it nicely, now if you do say this and theres no changes then there is a BIG problem
1. He is committed to someone else and you are just a subordinate or a SIDE CHICK
2. you are probably a booty call someone that quench his sensation feeling
3. Hes married and his family comes first and you are one of the regular girl he see and run to when having issue at home
WHAT TO DO
1. stopped the calling , dont call him no matter how much you miss him infact get busy till you forget him.
2. treat him like every other regular guy you meet
3. class yourself high
4. start looking for a serious dude and dupe him
Now sometimes the guy in particular might be going through some emotional stress e.g probably he lost someone he loves and his scared to get committed again because he cant bear to lose another person, if this is the now the case dear you have to keep calling him make him forget about his past, bring him out of his shell, make him trust you totally and show that sign of not going anywhere
i hope have answer this till we meet again
i receive this mail and the person want an urgent answer, so i will be discussing about it
MY NEW BOYFRIEND ALWAYS WANT ME TO CALL HIM FIRST IS IT NORMAL PLS HELP
there are different types of guys , some are extra-ordinary shy and some are quite type and some really weird guy that just do things without knowing if you are hurt or not, now the point is how does he feel when you call him first those he apologies sincerely and try to explain why he didnt call you since if he does that he likes you alot and felt guilty and was trying so hard to not make you feel bad.
now what to do if this happens frequently go on a date and table how you feel about this, now when you are explaining your plight to him dont show anger, annoyance just allow the flows then say it nicely, now if you do say this and theres no changes then there is a BIG problem
1. He is committed to someone else and you are just a subordinate or a SIDE CHICK
2. you are probably a booty call someone that quench his sensation feeling
3. Hes married and his family comes first and you are one of the regular girl he see and run to when having issue at home
WHAT TO DO
1. stopped the calling , dont call him no matter how much you miss him infact get busy till you forget him.
2. treat him like every other regular guy you meet
3. class yourself high
4. start looking for a serious dude and dupe him
Now sometimes the guy in particular might be going through some emotional stress e.g probably he lost someone he loves and his scared to get committed again because he cant bear to lose another person, if this is the now the case dear you have to keep calling him make him forget about his past, bring him out of his shell, make him trust you totally and show that sign of not going anywhere
i hope have answer this till we meet again
Long Distances Relationship
have heard people saying oh, i dont think i can do this distance it time consuming, it exalts me, going on and on, but the truth is Love knows no distances, no barrier , if you put your mind to it you can achieve that. Am listing below how to keep the fire in your distance relationship burning
1. Love i know you are surprise why i put love right yes love has stand in all ramification of event, love make people do crazy things for each other keep falling in love with your partner everyday , imagine you been with him/her, imagine crazy things with your partner
2 Communication always communicate with your partner, in-fact you can do things together thanks to technologies you can be cooking and then call your partner on video call to watch you, you watch football with your partner yes you can , try and find the interest of your partner e.g soccer, cooking, and once the chance present itself make sure you watch the match together online yes it possible
3 Trust learn to trust each other, if your partner tells you he/she is going out don't doubt take it like that infact if you find out he lied about where he went to via pictures he/she posted on Facebook like the pictures and don't mention it to him/her even when he./she did bring it up to why you didn't ask tell him/her that you believe something came up for him/her to be there in that time yes that is trust and doing that you won your partner heart more.
4 Be each-other Comforter comfort each other , there are times we want to be alone to our though and self and when this happen to your parting by being online and not saying hello to you sweetheart dont get angry and dont start thinking is with another person , give him space we all want space something to reflect on our self and know what we really want and when this happen just give your partner that space yes big space and trust me your partner will appreciate you more
5 Prayer :- am sure you will be surprise i put this right yea i know you are, dont want till you get married before you learn how to pray learn it now, be a praying wife , pray your way to your destiny, pray and pray and keep praying until you get the result you want yes you can
with all what i listed above you can have that perfect distance relationship and before you know it boom you are with your partner
till we meet again
1. Love i know you are surprise why i put love right yes love has stand in all ramification of event, love make people do crazy things for each other keep falling in love with your partner everyday , imagine you been with him/her, imagine crazy things with your partner
2 Communication always communicate with your partner, in-fact you can do things together thanks to technologies you can be cooking and then call your partner on video call to watch you, you watch football with your partner yes you can , try and find the interest of your partner e.g soccer, cooking, and once the chance present itself make sure you watch the match together online yes it possible
3 Trust learn to trust each other, if your partner tells you he/she is going out don't doubt take it like that infact if you find out he lied about where he went to via pictures he/she posted on Facebook like the pictures and don't mention it to him/her even when he./she did bring it up to why you didn't ask tell him/her that you believe something came up for him/her to be there in that time yes that is trust and doing that you won your partner heart more.
4 Be each-other Comforter comfort each other , there are times we want to be alone to our though and self and when this happen to your parting by being online and not saying hello to you sweetheart dont get angry and dont start thinking is with another person , give him space we all want space something to reflect on our self and know what we really want and when this happen just give your partner that space yes big space and trust me your partner will appreciate you more
5 Prayer :- am sure you will be surprise i put this right yea i know you are, dont want till you get married before you learn how to pray learn it now, be a praying wife , pray your way to your destiny, pray and pray and keep praying until you get the result you want yes you can
with all what i listed above you can have that perfect distance relationship and before you know it boom you are with your partner
till we meet again
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