CONFUSED SOUL

Hello guys,

It's another wonderful Wednesday and we should all be thankful for a wonderful life.

Saw this mail from someone and here's what it says.

Hi Bunmi, 

Great job, you are doing, am in an open relationship with this amazing lady, we've been together for 3,yrs now, and in the cause of dating we've both dated two different people and recently have been thinking, like am not getting younger again, need to settle down, I have all what I need, am okay financially and as an only son my parents are on my neck to bring in a wife so it kind of that.

I love my girl she gives me the freedom I want, she's understanding and nice, I know it kind of crazy to date other people and both know about it, we even joke about it 

We are both cool with that find out she's been advoiding me lately, is either she's busy at work, or not around or stuffs like that I got tired of her attitude and asked her to tell me whatever is going on then she break the ice.

She said she's tired and doesn't want to be in an open relationship again she needed a more committed one, I smiled when she said this, and said am tired of it too, I asked her to marry me, she was shocked and asked  for some days to think it through, after two days she replied that she want to start afresh that I will always use the eyes of her past to judge her that it's better to be with someone new and forged ahead, she said I won't ever trust her, I love her so much, and have tried everything I could think of, she won't just accept the ring, your advice is needed please.

PS:- she was the one that suggested the open relationship then I didn't, she said I can try new relationship  instead of cheating, as long as she knows about it and I should never be carried away, she tells me when to stopped and likewise  i too, I bugged her line without her knowing the two guys she met it never passed lunch because I read her chat and messages without her knowing and am proud to say in three years am the only guy  she get down with, I never ever told her I bugged her line I know she's a good lady and that's why I can't let go pls advice.

Thanks..

Answer 

Wow am so speechless this is a critical request that require an intelligent answer I will be back to give my advice on this

Thanks guys 

Happy Eid

Hello bunmi,

Great job, you are doing,  so am not here to talk about any relationship, am just here for me, so I work together with this lady, and it's been so tiring, apparently she's always looking for my trouble.

And have tired avoiding her times without numbers, by facing my job squarely but she always seems to find her way back to me e.g by borrowing, once she noticed I start ignoring her and facing my job, she start with borrow my stuffs and through that she start talking with me, and after that she start her issues again, honestly am fed up.

And I need an advices thanks...


Advice

Dear Tola,

Trust me have been there, and I know what you are passing through, here's my advice be friendly towards work only, like work together as a team.

And don't get familiar with her, once she comes with her borrowing method to start getting personal with you.

Tell her you do not have whatever she want to borrow even if you have, because people like that can't change and trust me it's not worth draining your energy for.

You can't leave your job for her, so you need wisdom to work with her and that's be professional only.

Once she asked for one thing today and you said no, and after some days she asked for it again and you still maintain your No, she will stay on her lane .

I wish you well there and don't forget to give feedback regarding this and lets know if this works or not.


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When love Turn Sour 2

Hello guys,

It another exciting day, happy wonderful month to us all..

So I received alot of mails regarding why once madly in love lovers turn enemies.

Here's my take on this?

 Communication barrier :-

When there is no efficient communication between partners, especially when one of them start bottling things up in his/her chest, which will then result to not trusting.

Falling out of  love:-

The  truth is we all fall out of love, but when we think of the time, effort, and enegy, we put in the relationship then we start to fall back in love with our partner again.

Listening to side talk :- wether we likes it or not, we do have friend-enemies those type of friends that do not want us to be happy, or that tend to spoil beautiful things.

Not being patience enough:- most times when our lovers doesn't have time for us, we tend to think they are cheating, which are usually not true.

hey bro or sis, our world is not revolve around men or women, sometimes we just want to be alone and think or shut ourselves up for days and when this happen, we start having funny thought and then when the other partner didn't give enough explaination due to the fact that he/she is angry that u didn't trust them enough, then we start trying to get a revenge by going for dinner with anyone that Is available at that moment which is totally wrong.

How to stop these.

Am just going to talk about the two words which are very important.

Trust trust !trust learn to trust your partner, no matter what you hear, never  believe whatever they tell you untill you caught them red handed.

Communication and patience:- communicate and be patience with them, when you see or noticed something's call their attention to it and talk about it,

And above all love and love and keep loving your partner, no relationship is easy, but the total of hard work you input makes its works out ...



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