Six years relationship (2)

Hello guys!!!

Welcome to another exciting weekend, and thank God it's Friday.

I will be discussing about our last discussion, about a lady that invested six years of her life to a relationship, or still investing, and she's very tired and needs an urgent advice, because according to her she is very or feel lost and feel suffocated in the relationship and needed an advice.

I received alot of mails concerning the advice I gave to her and most of the mails were about my quote (a broke guy has no business in being in a relationship).

I received alot of mails concerning this, saying na broke we broke oh, we no kill person,. (A quote from atleast 5 guys 😀).

Bros, I think we had a miscommunication on this, what I said was that a guy that want to be in a relationship should be able to take care of his own personal needs, before extending his hands on a relationship, you can't be broke with no income and then being in a relationship.

At least if you are going into a relationship, please make sure you can take care of your basic needs.

Dear sis, I can feel your pain through your writing, and it's obvious you love and want the best for him.

So here's what we are doing, you will arrange a meeting between you two, then ask him where your relationship is going

Now here's a trick, when a guy tells you immediately he has money or get a job is marrying you in that his condition, my dear sister, I hope am communicating, start giving other guys chance,

Because men like that are not serious and they will keep wasting your time .

And immediately he got a better job, you are a goner, he will never ever settle down with you, yes you heard me right, because by then you won't be his specks.

Note :- Iam not saying it's not good to suffer with a guy, suffer with a guy that has a potential, someone that's very hard working, and trying all his possible best to be somebody in life, not someone that said he can't settle for a salary of 60k and yet find it so easy to settle with his girlfriend 60k salary, that's a selfish man right there.

And he doesn't want to work, a hard working man, will start a hustling job, just to put food on his own table and not depend on his girl money.

Infact a very hard working man will be so ashamed to collect money from his girl, and the lady will be the one forcing him to take.

And this is for you dear sister, no matter how much you love a man, do not, never offer to carry his responsibility, yes you are his girlfriend, not his parents, and you have your own life to live, do not ever displease yourself, just because you want to please someone, live your own life, they will either meet you half way, or go, their choice to make.

Iam not saying you shouldn't or can't help your boyfriend/girlfriend, but not at the detriment of your own happiness. Love with your eyes and brain open,

If that man married you, believe me you will be shouldering all the house responsibility and by then it will be far worst, because it will be triple, this is just an iceberg, compare to when you are both married.

That's my blunt and honest answer and I do wish you all the best dear sis, please don't forget to let me know the outcome of your meeting. Love you now and always.


I will be dropping my pen here today, thanks so much for always sending in mails and for your advice, thanks so much, these are really appreciated.

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Six years relationship

Hello guys!!!!

Welcome to another exciting month and week, and my prayers for us all is that it's should favour us all.

I received this mail and it's urgent and need an urgent reply, and she said she want my blunt reply on this (😀), okay am snapped back to seriousness,  below is her mail .

Hello bunmi!!

Great job you are doing, please this is urgent and I need your urgent advice.

have been dating my guy for the past six years, as a matter of facto, this December makes it six years.

 We started dating since I was in senior class and am now a working class lady earning 60k, everything is perfect on my own end as at now. But not on his.

Ever since he left school, he has never worked, he said he can't do a job of 60-70k, because he has distinction, for almost six years now, he's been looking for a job worth 300-500k.

Bunmi  see not that I don't have faith in him, but my philosophy in life is when you appreciate something small, then the bigger doors open, am so confused, time is not on my side and am 28yrs now, I can't cope with this forever, from my own small salary,.that's what both of us has been managing from since three years now, and due to this I don't even have any savings...


I need your blunt and honest reply pls thanks

First of all, I need to commend you on your patients, it's so rare to see your kind, and that's a fact, especially in this our present world, that some ladies have three their cautions out of their windows and have done or doing all sort to ride Benz so well done.

Secondly a broke guy has nooooo business in being in a relationship, am so sorry, but this is the bitter truths, it's can never work out, when I say broke I don't mean he has to be a billionaire or a  millionaire, I meant a guy that can take care of himself and his personal needs, before offering to care for another person,

And thirdly your guy is a lazy type, he can't work or collect a salary of 60-70k, and yet he find it convenient to share your own 60k salary with you.

His a very proud fellow, who has allowed his distinction to get to his brain, and this has made him to loose so many opportunities, because he's not ready to learn and be under anyone, he want to start from the big post of ogas, which can't work in Nigeria working places.

He really need to forget distinction, infact, I have two friends that came out with that same distinction and yet work and earn 50k,

And lastly this is for you, I think in your 20's you should be building your own career and how to be a boss, no offence, you want my bluntness and this is it, because if you had been building your own future and your career, you won't ever settle for less, by putting up with such a man, and be comfortable to stay with 60k salaries and call it okay, do not get me wrong, am not saying it's bad, it's very good, but if you had put all those energy and time you invested in that six years relationship, into a business, am sure you will be a millionaire by now..

I will be stopping here today and till we meet again, I will be discussing what you need to do to make him a serious fellow.

Till then, have a great week and yes I love you, yes you

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