Being in a domestic relationship

Hello guys , 

Guess you  all  are having a great day?

Today is all about domestic relationship, it's not only when one is married that they experience domestic.

Being in a relationship with a violence  person that derives joy, in making you sad all the time is also called domestic relationship.

Got a mail from an anonymous yesterday and here's what she wrote.

Hello Bunmi,

Great job you are doing, am so glad to know your blog, it has refresh me greatly.

My best friend has been in an unhealthy relationship for some time now, and the guy derives joy in bully her every now and then.

He's a rich guy, that has used money to buy the lady families, all her family members call him their in-law and he gives them money alot.

Now the problem is, the lady doesn't have freedom, she can't do anything on her own.

 Like hanging out with us, the guy won't allow her,  they don't live together, but still he monitor her, calling her every now and then asking her where she is, if she's home he want to talk to her people to be sure.

 If she's out with her friends he will tell her to start going home, giving command, and if she said she can't just leave us like that he  will drive there embarrass her in our presence saying why would she go out without asking for his permission, and then start saying all sort of things like ashawo, looking for man and blabla and this is just a relationship, Bunmi not a marriage.

He doesn't want to see her with anyone at all before now she used to work in a great company with fantastic  salary but when they met he asked her to stop working after two month of dating and started giving her 50k monthly allowance, and apart from that he does take her out for shopping  making her hair and her other basic needs .

• He's a nice guy but he has issues if she's not with him then she has gone to meet men, all he thinks when she's not there is she's with a man .

Have tried talking to her she said she tired of it too and doesn't know what to do.

She has tried breaking up with him once and he called all her family members crying and everyone turn their backs at her saying she's a bad person that she want to drive away the man God send to them ha who does that.

Now the man is talking marriage now and she's really scared of going into it she need advice and she need it real fast....

And I trust you to give her a good one because you've done mine too in the past.

Thanks 

Wow thanks so much anonymous, am so glad the advice I gave you worked out and please would love to hear more news from you  my friend.

I will reply to this mail, but while waiting for my reply if you find yourself in this situation, how would you solve it?

Especially when your family that are suppose to be there for you are not because of what they are benefiting .

Let's know how you relate to it, send me an email and I will surely reply.

And the other mails, I saw them as well and I will only post those that are huge and serious as this, so please if I don't post yours and only reply your mail to give you advice please take it in good faith.

Then we meet I love you, yes you ..

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