Confused Soul 2

Hello guys

Happy Thursday, yea can't wait for the weekend to start, so yesterday I posted a series about a confused guy that needed adviced and I promised to get back, well here ''IAM'' with my advice.

I pray and hope it's helped...

Adviced

Mr. Anonymous,

Am going to be straight with you, and the advice am going to give will be from your write up.

I might be hard please don't take it personal, I appreciate the fact that you admit you are in an open relationship and for you saying that you knew the foundation was wrong from the on set.

This shows you take responsibility for your actions and that's what makes a man.

please ladies stop starting what you can't finish, when you knew if he asked you to marry him, that you won't 

why lead him on? 

you wanted the relationship so bad or perhaps you needed to experiment so bad that you never or it doesn't occur to you that the relationship might lead to him asking your hand in marriage, please ladies let's stop this.

Mr. Anonymous you mentioned you love this lady and don't want to loose her, 

You never loved her, you only loved the freedom she gives you to do what you like and you still expect that once she says I do, 

She's a smart lady she knew you are good for dating and not for marriage perhaps she wanted an experiment and use you for that, 

She has rules she date one man and she

used you as an experiment in other to have an experience, perhaps she tested you with the open relationship trying to know your mind and once she find that out she decided there to put you on dating zone.

You said she's understanding right? In three years that you've dated she allowed you to date ladies got down with them, and hers never passed outing, and it's never occur to you that she might be testing you ? trying to know if you are someone she can marrys

She gave you many opportunity to redeem your self and you didn't , 

She got tired of you not changing and she decided or perhaps find out she deserve more and then she tried to break off from the relationship.

You detected this  through her phone that you bugged, you saw all her  chat with her friends, then you forced her to say what's on her mind, then try tying her down with the word( marriage). 

You bugged her line  you know everything about, her relationship as you put it with other guys never surpassed outing , you monitor her life, you said she was faithful and you were not and you hold her responsible for sleeping with the ladies you've dated, remember she dated two guys too.

While in relationship you knew everything anonymously without her knowledge (lack of trust)  yet she never slept with the guys, while you slept with yours.

Am going to ask you an honest question had it been that you didn't bug her phone and you were not able to know if her relationship passed outing, would you ask her hand in marriage?

Sweet heart the foundation of your relationship was faulty from  the beginning, there was no love you needed someone that won't question you, and she fit into that she got tired and want out.

She's a very smart girl to say NO because if she had married you , believe me it's won't last she will never trust you even if you changed.

Here's my advice 

I will suggest you start afresh too, see this as a lesson to shape your next relationship, and if you know you love her so much to let her go, invite her out on a date confessed that you bugged her phone and you know what she's been doing, begged and asked her to forgive you.

Let the communication in your relationship increased, 

never keep secret

start appreciating her 

Keep loving her, till you are forgiven and loved.

It might be tough, she might still insist it's over , but if you truly want her keep been persistent,

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